What happened yesterday in Melbourne, and a couple of years ago in Sydney with the Lindt Cafe siege, is great violence, inflicted on innocents, by men guilty of domestic abuse.
I am sick of reading in the media each week about another woman who has been killed by her partner. I am even more sick to think of the even greater number of people living in fear and violence in their own homes, abused and beaten by their partners on a daily basis.
Or the brave ones who leave, only to be stalked, tracked down, and in too may cases, killed by their ex-partner, who cannot bear the thought of them finding happiness elsewhere.
And what is done about it?
Nothing, or so little that it makes barely a dent into the statistics.
We don't have a "terror attacks on home soil" problem. Not because extremists don't try. But because the government throws a lot of money at that particular issue. People are monitored, followed, and most of the time successfully apprehended before they can commit mass-murder.
Now compare that with domestic violence victims. First of all, if the wounds aren't visible, tough luck. In one fell swoop, unless you are lucky and there is someone knowledgable at your police station, financial abuse, psychological terror, complete control over who you are and aren't allowed to see are discounted.
And even for those with great physical wounds - gashes, bruises, strangle-marks - too many offenders get away without being sentenced to prison. Some government statistics can be found here.
So what am I saying? I am saying that domestic violence is not about domestic, it's about violence. Men and women who resort to violence on a regular basis as a means of getting what they want will not stop unless they are stopped.
There are some great programs for offenders, to teach them words to use instead of violence, to say "I don't like this" or "this hurts me". Because violent behaviour comes from somewhere, and there are things that can be done to help offenders too. But the reality is that they usually don't seek help or get offered help until it's too late.
I would like to see some of the anti-terror money funnelled into combatting domestic violence. Into offering more refuges for victims, rather than cutting the funding for them, as the Abbott government did. I would like offenders to be sentenced to get help if they're not sentenced to prison.
I would like to see violent offenders to be monitored in the same way as terrorist suspects. Because contrary to the latter who are only suspects, the former already have shown that they are capable of violence.
I would like us to stop talking about "domestic" violence.
I would like us to talk about "violence"- and how to stop it.